How do you lose a friend? Why do you lose a friend?
I have my share of "sayang naman yun" friendships and I have to admit that for a number of them I did assume that it might be mainly my fault. Did I not keep in touch enough? Did I say anything I'm not supposed to say? Was I too straightforward? Was it not even a real kind of friendship to start with?
I won't go around and assume that I have no fault with all those fall-outs but if there's one thing I'm sure of is that I definitely did my best to be a friend, or to save what's left of that friendship.
Looking back to the friends I "lost", I still wish them well. There are still moments in my life when I suddenly think that it would have been great to tell this story to blank. Or I get this picture in my head wherein I just know exactly how this certain friend would react. Sayang..
I still believe that things happen for a reason and you lose some friends along the way to gain new ones or maybe to someday rekindle that friendship and laugh about how it all went down. It will all boil down to timing I guess. Timing and willingness.
Here's to hoping we do meet again and end up laughing about all of this. We were friends for a reason, and it was a real kind of friendship as far as I'm concerned. I wish you well.
It has been a month since the wedding and whoa how time flies! So far it has been one cooking experiment after the other. A rehash of our budget sheet as a couple. Trying to figure out how our clothes would fit in our cabinet. And catching up on sleep! Yes... we now can sleep-in during the weekends!!! Oh such joy :)
I'm thinking of reviving this blog for sentimental reasons. Since I started here.. why not continue here. Well technically, my first blog was in blurty. Then tried LJ, then blogger (because I earned thru GoogleAds) :)
Mark today as the day I start posting here again. Food pics in blogger. More personal entries here. :)
This article was forwarded by Aims. A really good read. Interesting...
====== The right time to settle down By Randell Tiongson Philippine Daily Inquirer First Posted 21:32:00 04/19/2011
Filed Under: Personal Finance, Family, Wedding,Entrepreneurship
QUESTION: Should I be financially secured before I get married? What should be my financial standing before I consider marriage? —Charles Sy, businessman
Answer: There is no right or wrong answer to your question and matters of the heart and the wallet are always relative, it seems. I am assuming that you have already found the woman of your dreams and you are already certain that you want to spend the rest of your life with her.
As I write this column and answer the question, I can’t help but feel a bit nostalgic as my wife and I are celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary. I just want to reiterate that finding the right partner is something you should not rush as you are supposed to spend the remaining years of your lives together.
When you are considering marriage, it is admirable that you are taking responsibility very seriously. Since the query is financial in nature, let us tackle the readiness of marriage from a financial point of view. There are some individuals who jump into marriage financially unprepared, particularly in the area of incomes. When one gets married, you must be prepared to feed two mouths instead of one. I know our modern society frowns upon single income in a couple but prudence dictates that your income should be able to sustain both of your needs. Why? Even if your fiancée has a flourishing career today, there is always a possibility that she may decide to stay home when you are blessed with children.
There is an overwhelming desire for many mothers to be hands-on with their children and many mothers have given up very financially fulfilling jobs, a truly admirable notion if you ask me. When you find your income is just sufficient for you, you may want to consider other options to make more money or take a good look at your expenditures to see if you can cut some of them.
I would also recommend some modest savings, say three to six months worth of your monthly income to tide you over during financial changes that will result from your union, a buffer of some sorts.
I am also assuming that the cost of the wedding is already covered, too.
Just a tip, don’t overspend on your wedding as many of us do. Remember; invest in the marriage and not in the wedding. Some men feel they need to have millions of pesos, a nice house, a retirement fund, an education plan and all the “security” life can offer before settling down. While that situation may be ideal, it can also be unreasonable and can be superfluous.
Financial security is not achieved overnight and is something that both the husband and the wife should work on in their marriage. On the practical side, achieving financial security may take many years and if the man decides to be so sure of that before getting married, there might not be a bride waiting anymore. I agree that a man should be prepared—emotionally, spiritually and financially. However, preparedness is rather relative. On the extreme, some men jump into marriage virtually unprepared and they drag their partner into the mess he is in. On the other hand, I know of some men so afraid to be hitched until they have millions in their bank account—both extremities are unhealthy and downright silly.
Charles, I pray that you will have a blessed marriageand that the Lord will always be at the center of your union, something that will make your married life “fire-proof”… that’s assuming you have already found the partner you want to commit the remaining years of your life with (“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”—Mark 10:9, NIV). Plan and prepare, but take action and be in faith.
“Farmers who wait for perfect weather never plant. If they watch every cloud, they never harvest.” —Ecclesiastes 11:4, NLT ======
This is the first time ever in my 5 years of working that I(we) have no plans for summer. I MISS THE BEACH!!!! Summer is just not 'summer' without any beach plans. I feel sad. :(
All this saving up is getting on my nerves. Sure it's all about delayed gratification and saving up for a rainy day. But still... I want my 'breaks' from work. I have a strong feeling that it's starting to get to Arvic too. He makes it a point not to complain about it a lot to me. But he's getting uneasy. Maybe I should plan a quick getaway over the weekend. Let's see.
I was planning on deleting my friendster account already. For old times sake, I revisited the testimonials page.. and voila. I saw this... A testimonial from him.
Cza... My Darling, My Angel, My Dear, My Lady, My Sweetheart, My Bestfriend, My First Thought when I wake up, My Dreamgirl, My Last Thought before I sleep, My partner in adventures, My Addiction, My Fellow Freak, My Sweetness, My Weakness, My Inspiration, My Hugs, My Kisses, My Love... Girl whose captured my heart...
You bring out the Best, the Mushiness and the Cheesyness in me. You constantly Surprise me, Amaze me and put a Smile in my face. You make me want to sweep you off your feet every single time. And your the only one who I'll write something these cheesy for and post it for the whole world to read... :)
Awwww.. <3. Wala pa ata kaming 1 month nyan. Hahaha!
So I visited his page and saw my testimonial for him.
He's my happy thought, my answered prayer, my head cheerleader, my addiction, my good karma, my fellow freak, my breakfastmate, my moviebuddy, my fellow mass-goer, my warm hug, my sweet kiss, my fellow-adventurer, my favorite person, my dear.
Hmmmm.. parang nagkopyahan lang o! Hahaha! Alam ko ako yung nauna nagsulat e. But because what he wrote is longer, parang ako tuloy yung gaya gaya. Hmph! :P
Bottomline, I can't delete my Friendster account yet. I still want to reminisce.
A friend of mine (Hi Anne!) had an interesting idea to sign-up for some make-up 101 class one day. And a number of us immediately said yes! Personally, I really am not so into make-up and really fixing-up daily, too much effort! But then again, I think it's time to learn some make-up tricks. It'll come in handy soon maybe? Who knows... so off to Eastwood City we went. It turned out to be a really interesting and fun afternoon of girl bonding, color blending and laughs. :)
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