Alot has happened in the last four weeks. So much that I haven't really been able to write about it yet. And so much that even as I write this, I know it won't do justice to what reality has truly been like.
BabiesOn June 28, Greg and I found out we will soon be parents for the very first time. Yes, that's right, me - the one who really never wanted kids - is going to be a mom. Obviously, this came as quite a shock considering I was still on birth control, but we are getting more and more used to the idea. Excited, perhaps. Scared out of our gourds, absolutely. Tears of fear, tears of happiness.
BirthdaysI celebrated my 26th birthday on July 17. Without my grandfather, with whom I share a birthday, for the 6th year. Even though he's been gone almost 7 years now, for some reason this year it was harder. Harder because it became all too clear that my child would never know him the way I knew him. Harder because some of the best memories of my own childhood include him. Harder because I'm pregnant and overly emotional. Greg and I chose this night, surrounded by the members of our family we love most (parents, siblings, and grandparents), to tell them we are having a baby. Tears of sadness, tears of joy.
Two FuneralsNot even four days later on July 21, Greg's Uncle Mike and cousin Kyle died in a tragic farm accident. I still cannot write these words without feeling the heaviest saddness I've ever felt. A week full of uncontrollable sobbing, memories, funny stories, pictures, funeral arrangements, visitations, and more people than I have ever seen at a funeral later, looking back I realize it was one of the hardest weeks of my life. And it doesn't get easier. Growing up in the same small town, attending the same school as Greg, his sister, and all his cousins, and being part of his family for almost a decade, I can truly admit that it wasn't any easier for me just being "married into" his family. Tears of loss, tears of shock, tears of memories.
A WeddingLast Saturday, August 2, we attended the wedding of a friend from high school. Sitting in the church listening to the ceremony brought the last four weeks into focus. Thinking about Greg and I's wedding almost two years ago. Thinking of the wedding that would have been between Kyle and his fiancee Kim. Thinking of the new couple and their potential. Thinking about how old it makes me feel to be married and watch our friends get married. Thinking of our child and wondering if the time really does go so fast that one day they are in kindergarten and the next day they are getting married. Thinking about how all of life's journeys are frought with tears. Thinking about how I don't want to cry like I have in the last four weeks for a long time.