Six dates in a week

My updates include that S has started to date someone. So she probably won't ever post again...

But so the first week back in OCDating was interesting. The first date (see below) asked me out again and I politely texted him back and said no. The second date was a set-up (good on paper, not so great in person) and later on in the week I found out another friend of mine went out with him on a first date this week too (total coincidence). The third was a really sweet guy, but just seemed too awkward. He also asked me out again and I politely declined. Then I got tired. I decided to go back to my hookup instead of meeting a new guy and I took a little break. Whew

Fourth date was this dinner speed dating type thing. I enjoyed meeting a bunch of single people, but I do feel like the least freakish amongst the freaks sometimes. And just don't know if it makes any sense for me to do any of this stuff- I mean, am I really going to meet someone this way? I canceled the fifth date, and ended up meeting the sixth for coffee on sunday morning. And I can finally say I was happy to meet this guy.

We only met for about an hour, but he seemed like a genuine guy, and we really had great conversation. We had a lot in common and we chatted for a while. I think I'd like to see him again, but if he's not interested that's ok too - I'm just happy to know that I can actually meet someone like him this way.

Maybe I should actually filter better (novel idea) in advance of the meeting, but at least there are possibilities for me out there! Yay!!!

-M

trying to online date

Ok so I'm back to online-dating. And this is serious obsessively compulsive. I have four dates lined up for this week, and I'm going to a speed dating type of event in addition to that. I'll update you on all of them. So far, I went on one this morning. I said something about how my parents were trying to set me up with a guy who lives in Ohio and I thought it was too far and most men don't like to compromise, and this guy stops me and says "Whoa that's too heavy." I asked him to clarify, and he says that since I'm new to online dating (he has noooo idea!) I should know that the first rule is not to talk about sex, religion, politics, or anything too heavy. He says keeping it lite is the key ingredient to success. I wanted to ask him how his baldness was helping his success in the dating world.

And to be clear, it seems that people think online dating means you can't make it in the non-online-dating world. I don't feel that way. I think it's just another way to meet people (so far, not great people though).

-M

What I don't quite understand is why the guys I want to ask to meet in person don't (I mean, how many times can we write back and forth before they will want to meet?) and the guys who I barely know, ask to go out before I've even responded. Where is the middle ground? Will keep you updated on the rest from this week...